Four questions to ask yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed

I used to wear the title “BUSY” like a badge of honor.

“Melissa, how are you?” – BUSY

“Want to get together later?” – Sorry, I am BUSY

“Melissa, why don’t you just SLOW DOWN once in a while?” – I can’t… gotta stay busy.

I am someone who thrives on a full schedule (and I’ll admit, I enjoy it for the most part). I enjoy working on demanding projects, I love planning “what’s next” for my business, and I love spending my free time researching, learning and studying to grow both personally and professionally….

In the moment, this can all seem great. However, living with this mentality day in and day out with no time for rest, fun, and just enjoying life's simple moments can lead to burnout, stress, and resentment towards… well, everything.

My “BUSY-NESS” became a way for me to distract myself from the nature of my reality. I felt that if I stayed occupied doing “all the things”… I wouldn’t have time to focus on the internal struggles that were going on inside of me [you can read more about my story here].

Being busy made me feel “important”. Like I had my shit together.

If I was busy working on my brand, my business was growing. If I was busy expanding my knowledge, I was getting smarter. If I was busy taking on extra work, I was successful…

Can you relate?

Now don’t get me wrong. I believe that “being busy” to a certain degree is healthy. What I no longer believe in is jam-packing your schedule so tight that you run yourself into the ground because you have a million and a half obligations and only 24 hours in the day to get them done.

Nowadays, when I notice myself feeling overwhelmed (burning the candle at both ends), I give myself permission to stop, reevaluate my to-do list and move forward with only the things that are healthy, productive, necessary and make me happy.

So next time you find yourself on the brink of burnout….

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Ask yourself these

4 questions:

Is this task obligation:

1) healthy?
2) productive towards my goals?
3) necessary for progress?
4) something that makes me happy?

If the answer is YES, GREAT! Set aside some time during your week to work on it.

If the answer is NO, consider either removing it completely from your list of obligations, or move it to the bottom of your to-do list.

I know what you are thinking… Melissa, that is SO much easier said than done.

I get it. Trust me when I say this process will take some practice, so you have to be patient.

Time with Joe, Dack & Dexter trump EVERYTHING!

Time with Joe, Dack & Dexter trump EVERYTHING!

I have found that overtime, asking myself these simple questions has been helpful in alleviating some of the pressure and anxiety that comes along with having a jam-packed schedule, and helps me create more energy and time for the things in my life that a really important – like my husband and dogs!

A few more questions for you before you go?

Do you consider yourself to be a busy person?

Is it hard for you to do things FOR YOU?

Consider spending some time reflecting on your list of obligations and clearing up some space in your day to do things that make YOU happy! What would your life look like if you started prioritizing the simple things?

Think about it, and let me know what comes up for you in the comments below! ;)



If you are like me, and need gentle reminders to check in with yourself once in awhile, download a free printout to put on your desk of refrigerator to stay on track!